Riding the waves of my crazy unpredictable life

Sometimes I feel like I am just riding the waves of my life. Do you ever feel that way? Somedays the water is completely calm and still. I love those days. Other days the waves are bigger but totally manageable. "Ok I can do this." Then there are the days that the waves are so big I can barely make my way up from the undertow to breathe. Just being human is a very challenging experience. If you add unresolved trauma in the form of anxiety, overwhelm and depression to that mix. Let's just say that life doesn't always feel so fun. Lately I have been learning how to be more gentle and kind to myself. I notice that I often make things so difficult for myself but I am learning to take it less per

I was a good enough mom

Raising children can be extremely challenging. You want them to be happy and resilient but there are so many factors that can get in the way. One important factor can be your own unresolved issues from childhood. Current stress, anxiety, depression and overwhelm can be directly connected to your own unresolved trauma. In fact, it's a given that children will trigger your own unresolved stress. I remember how overwhelming it was for me raising my son. He had ADHD. He also had unresolved trauma that manifested as getting overwhelmed and melting down. This happened far more often than I would like to think about. He struggled to pay attention to what he needed to do. It was exhausting trying to